Hi! This week marks the 6th week since I had abdominoplasty. It also marks a personal milestone- the first time in I-don’t-know-how-long that I’ve thought to myself ‘Gee, I feel proud of my body’. Before I go any further, I’m not about to start espousing surgery as the best thing that ever happened to me (that spot is reserved for my kids and my husband); nor am I about to start panning surgery as the worst thing that ever happened to me (thankfully I don’t think I have anything for that spot!). Rather, I’m sharing a step along the road of personal development – where I just absentmindedly thought to myself, as I washed my not-insignificant scar, ‘Gee, this body feels OK, I feel proud of it. It has achieved some great things, and now, it feels nice.’
My physical journey to here has been a long one – with fluctuations in weight from 101kg (both in my singleton pregnancy and my twin pregnancy), to 97kg after breastfeeding twins….
and now to 65kg – and the best shape I’ve been in my adult life (I’ve no idea what I weighed in high school!); but more on that later. And don’t get me wrong, I’m not about to say that the only reason I feel great is that I’m not as big as I used to be. I think people are great no matter what their size, shape, colour, ability or religion, but today, it’s the mental journey-physical journey connection I’m interested in
We spend a great deal of time in self-criticism, and the payout we get for this negative self talk is discontentment, and self-loathing. I’ve spent so many years with that feeling, using those words, or the poorly-remembered words of my parents’ maybe misguided statements like ‘you’ll always be a big girl’ …. that I truly don’t know whether I was overweight and unhappy about it before or after the self-talk came in. I’m pretty sure it started with teen magazines, and graduated to women’s magazines…. You might have it too….That ‘cringe’ feeling when we look in the mirror. So, what if we thought differently for once? Replace that groan when you catch the first glimpse in the mirror in the morning with a smile and ‘hi there, me, you look great today!’ I’d love to know if our self talk and thoughts can change our physical self – there’s plenty of theories out there that suggest they can.
When was the last time you felt proud of your body? I’ll bet it’s done some great things for you! Maybe you could share some of the things you say about yourself… even if they’re not positive – I think its helpful to get it out, and hopefully work out a way to turn it around.
Feed yourself with love; feed your family with love 🙂